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The notes stopped. Ten thousand dollars, every month. A girl gets used to that, real quick. It let me pay the bills without going into debt. And then, after a year, there was a knock on my door. A sleek black limousine sat on the curb in front of my house. Samantha Kielty only thought she knew who she was and what she was made of. Logan only hopes Samantha is capable of handling his dominating, controlling ways… especially between the sheets… or in the shower. He will push Sam past her sexual boundaries, and she will bring out his need to possess her in every way.

But, can they find love within the inferno that burns between them? Warning: This ebook contains sinfully hot encounters between two and sometimes three, and even four consenting adults. Contains graphic material that is not suitable for anyone under the age of How It All Started… One day I was a high school teacher on summer break, leading a relatively uneventful but happy life.

Or so I told myself. It all began when my neighbor thrust a key to a storage unit at me. Now she was on her way to the airport to elope with a man she barely knew, and she needed me to clear out the unit before the lease expired. Why had she let these items so neatly packed, possessions that she clearly cared about deeply, be lost at an auction? I read onward until the last terrifying dark entry left me certain that something had happened to this woman.

I had to find her and be sure she was okay. Before long, I was taking her job for the summer at the art gallery, living her life, and she was nowhere to be found. I was becoming her. But there is one man that will call to me, that will awaken me in ways I never believed possible. That man is the ruggedly sexy artist, Chris Merit, who wants to paint me.

I so do. Chris is dark, and so are his desires, but I cannot turn away. He is damaged beneath his confident good looks and need for control, and in some way, I feel he needs me. I need him. Still, I keep asking myself — do I know him? Did he know her, the journal writer, and where is she? There is just him and me, and the burn for more.

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She has no expectations, no dreams. Knight Sebring knows who he is, what he wants and what he likes. And he gets it. But he never expected something as sweet as Anya Gage to wander into his bedroom during a party he did not expect to be having to borrow his phone. Knight tries to leave Anya to the life she deserves of white picket fences and a man who watches football on Sundays — good, normal and clean. Knight teaches Anya that, just as with the bad, in life you should also expect the good.

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Anton will accept nothing short of her complete surrender as he molds and shapes her to be sold to the highest bidder. Donovan will have her. Ahhhhhhh such sweet relief! Published: December 25, by Fanciful Erotica. Some devices that are not all that common in the bedroom of non-BDSM practitioners include thumb cuffs, toe cuffs, cock-and-ball cages and collars, pleasure tape, and spreaders exactly what you think it is. Some like to be dominated.

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See all of my reviews. Damien Stark could have his way with any woman. He was sexy, confident, and commanding: Anything he wanted, he got. And what he wanted was me. Our attraction was unmistakable, almost beyond control, but as much as I ached to be his, I feared the pressures of his demands. Submitting to Damien meant I had to bare the darkest truth about my past—and risk breaking us apart. But Damien was haunted, too. And as our passion came to obsess us both, his secrets threatened to destroy him—and us—forever. Her mind tried to fight a bloody battle against what her body already knew.

She wanted him, and she wanted him bad. On the heels of college graduation and the unexpected death of her mother, Emily Cooper moves to New York City to join her boyfriend for a fresh start. Then she meets Gavin Blake. A rich and notorious playboy, Gavin is dangerously sexy and charming as hell.

When their paths cross again through an unexpected mutual acquaintance, she tries to deny the connection she feels, but Mr. With her MBA newly in hand, she has her future figured out—move up at the nightclub she works at and stay away from any guy who might trigger her obsessive love disorder. A perfect plan. He wants her in his bed and makes no secret of it. Or maybe their less than ideal pasts give them an opportunity to heal each other and finally find the love their lives have been missing.

Determined to overcome a difficult past, Erica Hathaway learns early on how to make it on her own. Days after her college graduation she finds herself face to face with a panel of investors who will make or break her fledgling startup.

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First published as the popular nine-part eBook serial, Brie Learns the Art of Submission is now available as a full-length novel. The renowned school is famous for its elite submissive instruction. She has no idea what will be asked of her or the boundaries that will be pushed. One thing is certain: Brie is about to learn more about herself in six weeks than she has over the previous twenty-two years.

From formal classes, hands-on practicums and weekly auctions, Brie will confront her deepest fears and desires. As graduation day approaches things begin to unravel, forcing Brie to make an unexpected choice of Master. Their paths cross at one of the darkest points in their lives. As they try to come to terms with the aftermath—forging an unbreakable bond—will they ever truly become masters of their own fates?

Or would fate become master of them? When Marc rescues Angelina Giardano from a disastrous first experience at his club, however, an uncharacteristic attraction leaves him torn between his safe, but lonely world, and a possible future with his angel. Angelina leaves the club behind only to have her dreams plagued by the Italian angel in a wolf mask who rescued her. While trying to protect Angelina from her abusive ex, though, Marc once again finds her at the Masters at Arms Club where she turns his safe, controlled world upside down.

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Can their relationship survive when a fantasy falls apart and a secret comes out that changes everything? She has over 30, reviews and ratings across Goodreads, Amazon, and other retailers. See my review for Throttle Me. She was the one who got away… Ten years ago, Brent Nichols let the love of his life slip through his fingers. Easier said than done… Shannon Paige has hardened her heart to the man she was once engaged to be married to.

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Six months ago, I broke my vow of celibacy on the altar of my own church, and God help me, I would do it again. He paid thousands of dollars for one night to own me, but when my blindfold comes off, I want more. More nights, more rules, and more from this unavailable and uncompromising man. Rule number one, no questions. Rule number two, no lies. But, rule number three? The only purebred vampire left on the planet and the leader of the Black Dagger Brotherhood, Wrath has a score to settle with the slayers who killed his parents centuries ago.

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Seventeen days later when another picked up the pieces. Seventeen years together. Seventeen thousand problems. Seventeen days of reliving my past and finding a new future. Seventeen minutes until it all went up in flames. Seventeen breaths until I took my last. She crosses genres and can write emotional and hysterical. You can find all of her books here. It is a great read that actually makes you think about the power found in love not just sex! Thank you Vicki!

These have been on my TBR pile for a while, it sounds like you either love it or hate it, but I will add it very soon! Floor Time Stewart Realty. Sweat Equity Stewart Realty. Closing Costs Stewart Realty. I read these series too! Loved them even though the female protaganist was annoying AF in the last book!! Great love story series.

No kinky fuckery, just plain old vanilla, but still a great read. They are on my list of not-quite 5 stars to add to this list. The sequel of the book is Point of Retreat and it was just as good. Have you read it yet? One of my favorites. A dozen top summer romances , and top 6 books for the first 6 months of Some kinky fuckery but also a great love story! Well worth a read.

I love that book. You can also read my review here. I also read Bared to You after the Fifty trilogy and really liked it. The sex scenes are steamy but not graphic, and the interaction between the main characters Joshua and Sarah is so captivating. Waiting for the last book to be released! Also on my list of must reads? Well, judged is maybe not the right word? We should definitely call them out on that. It is not the standard of healthy BDSM or healthy relationships, and pretending otherwise is damaging. There is nothing wrong with going 'I am going to enjoy this one thing in fantasy even if I know it is not something that should be done in real life'.

If there was, I'm pretty sure I couldn't enjoy all my videogames either, cause murdering people for their possessions isn't exactly kosher and yet it is fine to do in Skyrim. The big difference is that neither the game, nor the makers of skyrim at any point went 'Haha, you should definitely go out and rob your neighbour'. Nobody who plays skyrim goes 'I can't wait for the day I grow up and get to sneak into people's houses and steal their stuff'. That is not what we see with Fifty shades however. The woman who wrote this book holds it up as both healthy BDSM and a healthy relationship.

There are lots of people who read it who genuinely want to find their Christian, even young girls. That is a dangerous attitude we are enabling and in a society where domestic violence is already far too common, that is something we need to work to dismantle. Before people will actually get hurt. I am all in favour of being more open about female sexuality. The very fact that female sexuality is endorsed so differently than male sexuality is half the reason that so many women have ravishment fantasies to begin with.

I mean, for fuck's sake. In America, we have far too many people who think the hymen is at the back of the vagina and that it even is a good indication of virginity , who think girls pee out of their vagina, and the clitoris, god, that is somewhere inside or something, right??? If we can't even have a frank discussions about the way our sexual organs look, feel and how they work, that says a lot about society. It is fine for women to feel liberated because Fifty Shades finally is taking female sexuality out of this forgotten corner and puts it out in the open.

But just because it is great that there is finally attention to it, that doesn't mean that suddenly the relationship in the book is healthy. And here are definitely ways to talk about how much you enjoyed the book without endorsing the abuse. I mean, if people were watching stuff like American sniper and going on facebook all like 'ohhh this movie is so good, i hope i get to snipe some people some day' that'd be pretty disturbing too. At one point, Christian gets the protagonist drunk in order to have sex with her — avoiding getting her consent.

At one point, he ignores the safeword — a code word that is meant to signal that everything needs to stop, and that consent is not given. Christian ignores it. He tracks her down after she initially interviews him. He buys her affection with gifts. He uses emotional manipulation to get her to behave the way he wants her to, including having sex with him.

In a BDSM relationship, both people know and respect each other's limits, they communicate, they outline in detail what they do and do not consent to, and they treat each other as equals outside of scenarios they are acting out. According to people who have read the book I have not, so this is all second hand , there's a few points where she feels pressured into trying something that she doesn't want to do and there are points where he ignores the safe word. If a couple isn't setting and respecting boundaries, then it's not a healthy relationship.

You're not wrong, but depending on the situation barring the sort play-resisting "no, no, yes, yes! He heeds her safeword, but makes her feel guilty over it, even equates it in a sideways way to the violation of someone having broken into their apartment. And she accepts it all because "he loves her" and she doesn't want to reject him.

None of it is done within bounds of their contract. A key idea in communities that embrace alternative sexual behaviors is "safe, sane, and consensual". This can be problematic in the world of BDSM, as is can be difficult to give or revoke consent if you can't move or speak, or if you are role playing a non-consensual situation. Great care must be taken to use safe words and other signs, to be able to communicate when something has gone too far.

I have not read the book or seen the movie, but I understand at one point a safe word is ignored.

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The BDSM community in general considers this one of the worst things you can do, and crosses over form consensual enjoyment to a sociopath taking advantage of a victim. I've never tried anything BDSM myself, but I did sit through the movie with some friends mostly to laugh about it at dinner after. From what I understand, whenever BDSM situations are planned, the people have a discussion, clearly discuss their boundaries, figure out safe words, and agree to stop if the other person asks them to or says the safe word.

They do this before anything starts so that their minds are clear, and trust that the partner will keep their promises. The girl in that movie definitely asked to stop, definitely said no to some of the stuff, and was definitely ignored. Which is a big no-no and straddles or crosses the line between BDSM which is, simply put, play abuse and real abuse. Look for "Sunstone" comics by Stjepan Sejic. It's beautiful from position of art and story, also it displays nicely what is BDSM-relationships and how actual people of blood and flesh carefuly develop this.

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I and my gf kind of starting in this direction, and you know, there's nothing about glamour and stuff, and nothing about cruelty or sadism. Just I like to feel that she fully belongs to me, and she trust me even in dealing some small pains. I believe it's same thing for her - great feeling of letting yourself in someone's hands, without fear of being injured, mentally or phisycly.

Like, "even if I hurt you, it will bring you pleasure" and "I will not bring you real harm, I just want to feel that you deliver me such power, and you want to know, that I will never use it". I think, that's the whole sense of this game, if we avoid huge psychological concept of domination and submition. Sunstone is absolutely, infuriatingly fantastic. I really can't think of a better visual construction of BDSM mixed with romance and touches of comedy.

Sejic manages to show both the positive and the negative aspects of it by which I'm referring to problems like people not knowing their own limits or not following safe procedures. I can't recommend it enough, even before going to the whole hot lesbian sex aspect of it. Also, if anyone's really interested in BDSM related stories, Nana to Kaoru is also really lots of fun, as an ongoing manga series that shows a lot of different scenarios and aspects from the dom's perspective, like aftercare or the whole preparation behind building a scene. Curiously enough, the characters engage in BDSM without mutual romantic feelings, simply as a form of releasing stress, and there's a really deep exploration of their lines of thought, how they feel about what they're doing.

Oh, wow, I was just trying to think of the name of that comic. I love it, I've read through it twice. Yeah, that instantly got me. I've always was kind of about domination, that's just in my blood, so I always was kind of attracted by BDSM, still, as it pictured in porn, it was pushing me away - mainly it's just some violent trash, just for viewer's egoistic entertainment. Tnx to "Sunstone", I've managed to understand, what and how working inside of me, and why I keep attracted to this topic, and - yeah, somehow I find a girl, who feels the same - interested, but afraid. So we slowly moving, and yes, it's very thin line, and now I understand, how it can injure, if done wrong.

Sorry, couldn't resist I love that comic. I'm glad to see someone else mentioning it here. I enjoy the art, love the characters, and like the positive view of BDSM that it provides. The fact that it gets so in depth with the private feelings of both the main characters involved and many of the others too , and the important things that they have to consider in making the relationship functional and healthy, is just wonderful.

Lisa and Allison give me warm fuzzy happy feelings, and definitely in more than a sexual way. They're so cute! To head up this explanation: I Have read the entire trilogy, seen the movie, work in an adult store selling the books as well as light bondage gear , and have been in a BDSM relationship. Christian does not give Anastasia a significant chance to understand what he is asking of her.

Even knowing she is a virgin in every sense, he simply gives her a laptop and tells her to do some research. A real Dom would not do this. They would understand that they need to sit down with their prospective sub and explain in the minutest detail what they expect from the sub and what the sub should expect from them. They wouldn't just hand their sub a contract and send them off to find things out on their own. Christian also insists on controlling Ana not only sexually, but in every aspect of her life. But from what I remember, their contract was not that in-depth. Yeah he dictated a lot of stuff, but at any point she could have said no.

Stepping aside from the contract portion of the story, Christian is very controlling in almost every moment of the books. Your partner or Dom may and sometimes should be intimidating. If any relationship requires trust, this is it. Yes trust is just a DUH. But a BDSM relationship runs deeper. As a sub, you are literally giving your well-being to your Dom during a scene. Yes, everything has been agreed upon beforehand, but if your Dom cannot be trusted to show self restraint, this is not okay.

Also, I just have to point out, that quite often Christian leaves Ana to her own devices after a session with little or no aftercare. Just no. If a sub manages to enter into subspace during a session, it is important that the Dom be there to bring them back afterward. There is a huge emotional rush after an experience like this. While in subspace, a sub will often not notice what is being done to them, or the passage of time. Basically, it boils to this: Christian is more controlling than Ana agreed to, he is obscenely neglectful in many of his duties as a Dom, and I would also like to point out that in one of the final scenes from the movie, he fails to remind Ana of using the agreed upon safe words Yellow and Red when she demands that he show her the worst he could do to her.

He fails to explain to her the severity of what she is asking in this instance. He does not exhibit characteristics of a true Dom, rather those of someone who desires to control women for his own personal pleasure, and the pleasure of his partners is secondary. Essentially the criticism is that the domination, control, and crossing of boundaries extend outside the bedroom in an unhealthy way.

The only problem I've heard about the BDSM experience in the bedroom is that the woman uses the safe word in order to indicate that she wants the man to stop, but he doesn't stop. I would agree here. I haven't read the books but I saw the movie this past weekend and that's the impression I got from the movie. He seemed controlling and she appeared pressured.

I would say the differences would be the that true BDSM does not extend outside of the bedroom and that during sexual encounters the safe word is respected. The thing is though, even in those situations, even when one partner is the more dominant and seems to control the subs decisions, the sub still has the final word because they hold the safeword. They can blow these things off at any moment. In Fifty Shades of Grey that is not the case. At some point she seriously considers running to Alaska and he threatens that he will be able to find her. That is abuse. I needed that clarification too.

Not sure if that happens in the first book, but from the movie there was a lot that wasn't apparent. This is really the best answer in this thread. The big lengthy one up top overgeneralizes alot of things. This one tells it like it is. As someone that is polyamorous as well as into BDSM, the biggest point to these sort of relationships and just as important in every relationship is communication. The predetermination of safe words, what is ok, what is not ok, and when things need to be talked about is of utmost importance.

Not having a safe word or in Anastasia's case, not using a safe word can be very dangerous, and don't take dangerous lightly here, it can be dangerous, like juggling chainsaws on a moving car with three wheels dangerous. Not using or having safe words can not only cause lasting physical harm, it can kill. Many subs long to get to subspace, but at the same time, subspace can be dangerous. This means that the Dom has an immense responsibility to care for the sub and make sure they are not going too far.

In BDSM self restraint is as important as the dominance itself.

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When a sub comes out of subspace, they often don't know what time it is, how long they've been in subspace, and all the emotion that they felt thorughout the entire scene can suddenly rush on to them like a wave. Subs coming out of subspace often break down into tears, or just want some affectionate touch, this is the Dom's responsibility, and is known as aftercare. A sub should never be afraid of a Dom, and a Dom will never humiliate or yell at a Sub outside of a scene, especially not in public.

A Dom is not quick to anger, they are restrained and if a Sub breaks a rule, the Dom is swift to act, out of duty, not anger. A Sub never feels they deserve to be hurt, they believe they should be punished if they've broken a rule punishment is not necessarily pain. A Dom will never ignore a Sub, in the end, the Sub makes the final call, if it's too much, it's too much, no negotiating.

Tl;dr: Christian expects Ana to simply do whatever he says, she doesn't fully understand what she's getting into they don't really discuss the aspects of what he wants from her very well , He simply wants control, not a legitimate, intimate relationship. Christian exhibits every hallmark of an abusive partner, not a responsible Dom. Proper BDSM has ethics, safeguards, and standards of consent that aren't present at all in the relationship depicted in 50 Shades of Grey.

Most notably, he creates a power imbalance and enforces it on her, using it first to get a relationship and then to keep it: he assumes power over her without her consent, then uses it to pressure and manipulate and groom her into complying, and later to interfere with her attempts to leave, to exercise any agency of her own, and to negotiate for herself and her own needs and wants and and her own status in the relationship.

Contrast this with BDSM as two or more equal adults agreeing to form a power imbalance or the appearance thereof based on mutual consent, with the subordinate s extending privileges of their choosing to the dominant and retaining the ability to set limits and withdraw or withhold consent to things they don't want. Most people with submissive or masochistic tendencies have likes and dislikes, a level of immersion that they're comfortable with, and a life, wants, needs, relationships, et cetera, beyond their sexual inclinations, which they value.

Most people with submissive or masochistic tendencies want the ability to be safe, to have their limits respected, to have their emotional needs fulfilledthey want to be indulging a fantasy, not finding themselves wrapped up in a nightmare.

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Honestly, the most important thing a dom can be is safe for his or her subthe power imbalances, the script or roleplay, the painful or violent or forceful actions that occur within the scene, these are all bounded by consent, not tools to be used to undermine it. In 50 Shades, he doesn't seem to care what she wants, only about what he wants her to want and accept from him. He perceives her refusals and balking as obstacles to be overcome rather than decisions to be accepted. Her desires, too, he uses against her: his goal is to get her to give up agency, limits, outside relationships, anything in her life that she values, in order to keep getting her "fix" of pleasure from him.

It's compliance, not consent, at best, and he is the driving force behind it while she is the reluctant captive of it. People fantasize about this type of thing, and that's okay, and people roleplay this sort of thing IN BDSM scenes, and that's okay too. The problem is that he did not seek out and receive her consent for him to do all the things he did; he went out and started doing them and bullied and manipulated her into accepting it, and then he wouldn't let her refuse, and wouldn't let her leave.

He trapped her, and paid no attention whatsoever to whether she actually would want to be, or would choose to be, in the situation he forced her into. TL;DR: Consent as the free, informed, and ongoing choice to do something is the thing that enables BDSM to happen; it is the sub's protection against their sex lives turning from fantasies into nightmares and the dom's protection from charges of assault or abuse. He doesn't care what state she's in, her mood was irrelevant to him. And while one scene he shows his skills in reading body language, but in the rest, he is totally ignoring her feelings - as if trying to teach her that her feelings are irrelevant.

He behaves like Sheldon from the Big Bang Theory - viewing her state of mind as a hindrance in getting what he wants, and unwilling to consider any part of the other person's position. He broke into her apartment when she was asleep - they were at a down point and he 'made it right' by walking in on her, and waking her up at the right moment. Doms, don't try this at home! Unfortunately, he's rewarded with kinky sex, so everyone will take the wrong message home from this scene.

Looking back from the end of the film, I don't think he ever answered a non-trivial question from her honestly and openly. He always dodged the issue and turned it back on her somehow. The final play scene showed her crying scared during a play, and then run away from him, and, while you may hear it argued she never "RED"'d, he had just not a minute before said "fuck the contract" - so she could've easily believed she no longer had a safe word.

Oh, and He ordered her to go on the contraceptive pill without negotiation. Before any contract signed or consent or anything. And she does. The amount of simple BDSM mistakes was surprising to me, as I'd read online that the actor had taken lessons and even attended local scene parties in order to get an understanding of what he was portraying.

He visibly used tightening slip knots for limb restraining, he does a partial suspension despite her stating that suspension is a hard limit, the only clearly portrayed flogging hit her lower abdomen, as did a crop, and the very first spank shown in the film landed squarely on the base of her spine.

He also was unable to separate play from sex and viewed them as one. A spread eagle rope bondage scene was shown - in which all 4 of her limbs where visibly restrained with slip knots. Now, I'm no angel when it comes to knot selection, but jeez, a percentage of the audience is going to try this for the first time within an hour of the credits rolling, and I suspect they wanted to show an easy knot so that the "50 shades of grey collection silk bondage rope" would sell well.

She states suspension is hard limit. If you connect the on-screen shots of her contract with the dialog, its actually her only one, as his only other suggested limits "anal and vaginal fisting" piques her interest and she asks that it be not included in the limit lits. He cropped and flogged her, on the front of lower abdomen. The area with lots of sensitive squishy bits and not much in the way of protection. This is not a good idea to hit - eg one of a partner's other partners gave her a few good hits with a small tawste in that area and 2 days later there are moments where we're considering a trip to the emergency ward due to pain.

The first spank shown in the film was targeted towards to arse - but fell on the base of her spine. As a guess I'd say they wanted to show her face and the first spank fall in the same frame, and chose a well layed out frame instead of something safe. Now, it wasn't a very hard spank, borderline sensation-play levels, but still, members of the audience are going to try this at home.

All play is sexual to Mr Grey. No play did he keep his pants on. I'm not saying I'm concerned with people who have sex during play - as even I do this occasionally - I'm writing here that it was shown that sex occurs every play. They used BDSM as a form of foreplay, and, at least not on screen, it was never shown as being stand-alone. I'd almost go so far as to say they only did fetishised sex with adequate foreplay, rather than BDSM. The unrealistic characters were difficult to fathom at times; Mr Grey was just a richer Mr Big, he had too many achievements under his belt, his employees are all hot chicks, and, while he wasn't a Mary Sue, his one imperfection was a slap in the face.

Something which urks me in many movies is the concept of a female supporting character being the reward to the male character for accomplishing the goal. Mr Grey was the reward for Anastasia. He was the bait dangled in front of her if she performed the goals of the story. The billionaire hottie partner was her reward for being a good little sub and, at the end of the day, taking the abuse.

Mr Grey is way to qualified for a 27 year old - doing a little cross-referencing with the billionaires list, I think the real life inspiration for the professional side of Mr Grey is actually Richard Branson They both own and actively manage a telecommunications company, both have pilots licences, both have helicopter licence, both are billionaire paradigm-shifters who surround themselves with hot chicks. Could Branson have accomplished all that by 27?

Not likely. After a quick Wikipedia browse, in the USA, you need 1, hours of helicopter experience and 1, hours of light aircraft experience in order to carry passengers, and you can't start till your No way could you get that much practice in that short a period of time while actively running your own company. The only male he employed was his driver, everyone else at his entire company was a hot chick in a short dress.

I'd love to see a sex discrimination audit of his company. And they didn't really seem to do anything beyond "Personal Assistant" and "Walk around looking sexy". Fortune here we come! The only good thing I found in the Mr Grey character from a literary perspective anyway was he wasn't quite a Mary Sue character with perfect attributes and no flaws. Turns out he was abused as a child and had his birth mother drink herself to death.

Everyone in the audience goes "oh, that explains it - he's fucked in the head because of bad upbringing - its not his fault he's an asshole". It perpetuates the cycle of abuse conjecture, and makes abuse victims feel predetermined that they're going to commit abuse. And then we have the filming annoyances and general fuck-ups; welts appeared before the crop touched the skin, over exaggerated camera angles, suspension with unsecured wrist cuffs, and makeup and contract sync symbolism overload. First crop was shown to run over her arse - there was already a welt on her arse If they've been doing other play not shown to the camera, at least allude to it, else you have a virgin whose "never done anything" who somehow has done welt-worthy kink.

Each shot of Mr Grey in her presence was from below. Good god do I know that chin well by now. The symbolism got old real quick. You could tell he was standing on a crate or something as other shots he was about the same height as her. There was a partial suspension by wrists shown.

Now, the cuffs they were using looked awesome - and I totally want to track them down because they were better than my suspension gear, however she was in them so loosely that she would've slipped out had she lowered her hands. She was shown with visible, natural complexion. Freckles, acne, normal hair, realistic human flesh, and, surprisingly, pubic hair. At first I was impressed at the lack of photoshopping and realistic appearance. Then, over the course of the movie, as she gets closer to signing the contract, her imperfections disappear, and as she chickens out, they come back. And while there was equivalent symbolism in American Beauty, this one was re-enforcing the concept of "single sub equals ugly" - which isn't a healthy message to put subconsciously into peoples heads.

So my visit went like this: about an hour in, I got my phone out and started noting the mistakes made in the film. These were mistakes made by most newbies, myself included. During which time the sub sitting next to me was face palming every other minute I was glad when the credits rolled, because another few minutes of watching the culmination of emotional abuse and I'd of had to of walked out to have saved the subs mental health.

Please don't go see it. Torrent a cam if you must, but for the love of all things kink this movie does not represent us. I'm just going to say this again, in the same thread, because I can't stress enough how amazing Sunstone is as a comic centered around BDSM.